Understanding Your Sexual Language
Understanding Your Sexual Language : Have you ever felt like your partner does not know how to make love to you the right way no matter how much you try to teach him? Do you feel like your sexual language is totally different from your partner? Is your partner’s love making skill consistent with how he learns new information for work, school, or play? The truth is there may be a connection between how we learn new information and how we communicate our sexual needs to our partner. If you fail to learn your partner’s sexual language you may find yourself having sex less or not at all.
In our world today, sex is all around us whether it is in the movies, sports, or working avenues. I had a chance to ask my husband one day whether or not he felt that the way he acquired new information was the same as how he viewed sexual intimacy. Initially, I thought he was going to laugh in my face and say that my question was silly. However, surprisingly enough, he told me that he did believe that his learning style may be connected to how he perceived sexual intimacy. Now, when I say the word sexual intimacy, I am going beyond intercourse. I am talking about making love to a person emotionally, mentally, and physically. I am talking about a sexual language that engulfs a person’s inner being reaching deep down into the inner core of their soul. 남자 크기
If there is a connection between your learning style and how you perceive sexual intimacy, what would this mean for your style and sexual intimacy relationship? Basically, if your style is to learn more about yourself and your body, and you are not satisfied with the ways you are learning and perceiving sexual intimacy, then you may feel inadequate, invalidated or even ridiculed. I know that when I am learning about my sexuality and learning about myself, I feel vulnerable. There is always that nagging feeling of whether I am or am not enough. This feeling can overwhelm you and always leave you wondering if you are loved. This can keep you stuck and always leave your partner begging for more.
If your style is to give and receive, love and gain, giving and receiving, then you are already leading a very pleasurable journey. You are being authentic and living your true self. Through self-pleasuring (commonly called “soloing”, or alone time), you are able to ask questions of your own creativity and comfort. Soloing allows you to experience your body from inside while giving you the ability to create a sensual and sexual space of your own. You are in your head, yet also in your body and energy. This is the essence of soloing.
“I ask myself what is the most beautiful place I can imagine when I lie down naked in a bed?”
“Astoreously beautiful?” “Fantastic!” ” leaps out of the bed and wraps you in his arms?”
“Your TOTAL body.”
“Oh, your mind is so amazing.”
“I love it here!”
“Wherever YOU are.”
“I can give myself an orgasm just by fingering myself.”
“That feels REALLY good.”
“Is that all there is?”
“This moment is bananas!”
“I love your penis.”
“I never want to be without you.”
“I can’t even picturize yourself.”
“Your body is so hot.” Understanding Your Sexual Language
“I love the way my Self looks naked in the light from the mirror.”
“I am so HAPPY that youiseaway.”
“I can’t even express how I feel when I touch myself.”
“What can I do to feel more pleasure?”
“Why don’t you Save and nurturing more often?”
“Sex can be so good for us.”
“Oh, I love your penis inside of me.”
“I have a vagina.”
“And a penis.”
“But I still love your penis.”
“What else can I do to give you more pleasure?”
“Anything.”
“I will give you anything, 100%?”
“What will you give me in exchange?”
“Why not?”
“I will do my own research, and you can do the same for me.”
“Do you really want that?”
“Oh for goodness sake don’t tell me you’ve never sucked or licked or heard someone else’s vagina as something you might have fantasized about? Must be nice.”
“All right, then….”
“My penis is very sensitive, it aches for your mouth, tongue or lips inside of me.”
“I will take care of you after dinner, honey.”
If you listen to the background here, this is not the kind of advice you hear very often.